Cuba Mission 2015

This Article will be appearing in the Alliston Herald Newspaper regarding the upcoming trip and need in Cuba.   Thank you Laura Gardham for writing this.

Alliston church collecting donations for Cuba mission


ALLISTON – Cuban residents are renown for being warm, friendly and welcoming to those who visit their country, but that doesn’t mean all is well in paradise. Alliston resident Laura Gardham has seen first-hand the challenges the people of the island nation face on a daily basis. Gardham, who has visited the country several times on charity missions, says you only see the real Cuba when you venture away from the sunny beaches and outside the tourist areas. “For us Canadians, it seems fun and cute to see the old ‘50s and early ‘60s vehicles, but for the Cuban people it’s not so cute to live in a country where the majority of people have no hope of affording an old vehicle, let alone something from this decade,” she said. During a previous trip, her group visited the city of Morón, which opened their eyes to how bad life is for most residents. “It’s third world conditions…everything was do dilapidated, there was garbage everywhere,” she said. Gardham and a small group from Alliston Pentecostal Church will be heading back to Cuba in April to give away money and essential items to residents who need them most. Gardham said the church has been making trips to Cuba for the past 14 years after Pastor Wayne Lucas made it a mission to help the people. “It was just something he felt compelled to do,” she said. For this trip they are heading into a remote area in the mountains, which will require a five-hour car ride outside of town, plus a three-kilometre hike. In order for the mission to be successful, the group is collecting donations. Gardham said cash is the best donation option, as it’s easiest to transport, and because a dollar can be stretched a long way in Cuba. For example, $20 can feed a family for four for a week, while $100 can purchase a drinking well. “It might be a little bit but it provides a whole community with a water source,” she said. And for those who are able to dig a little deeper into their wallet, for $240, she said a family can be supported for an entire year. Some of the most helpful items to donate include sheets, towels, dollar store reading glasses and children’s toys. The group also needs summer clothes for men, women and children, new undergarments, shoes, pain relievers like ibuprofen and Aspirin, and first-aid supplies. Instruments like guitars, accordions, tambourines and keyboards are also being collected. “Instruments bring a lot of joy to them, because they such a musical people,” she said. Donations clearly marked For Cuba can be dropped off until April 5 at The Attic on Victoria Street or at the Alliston Pentecostal Church on Highway 89 just east of Highway 50. Receipts can be issued for donations of a minimum of $20. For more information, call 705-435-7991. – See more at:


‘Friendly Fire’. I first heard that term years ago when a newscaster disclosed how a Canadian soldier was unintentionally shot by one of our own. You would expect this in the craziness of wartime battle, but I have been surprised by how many human hearts have been shot up by those supposedly fighting for us, not against us. My own heart bloodied as well.

Some of our most painful wounds have been inflicted by people we trusted, even a dear friend. Enemies cannot betray you, only a friend can. I have heard it over and over again, comments like ‘I left the church because *** said this to me, and crushed my heart’. If the truth be told, there were times that I too would have left – had it not been that I couldn’t, I was their Pastor!

When followers of Jesus cause harm to other followers, there is often a ripple effect. You are not only injured, but now distrust others – and even distrust God Himself because he allowed this.

So what do we do? Do we just sever the relationship? Do we hit back? Is there still good faith in our tank to believe that God redeems our pain through His own? That by His wounds we are healed?

Maybe you are among those who have been deeply hurt. Perhaps you are a ‘wounder’ living in a self imposed exile, believing yourself unworthy to be restored to a warm. loving relationship with God or His followers.

This is a difficult topic, but one in which healing can be realized. Would you accept my invitation for the next few weeks, starting February 22, to come along with me to see what God has to say about the matter? Let’s break the silence, and go to the well of life that ‘never runs dry’. Let’s begin by examining what scriptures say about ‘HURT by those we love, HEALED by God’s Great Love’!

‘FOLLOWING JOHN TO THE HEART OF JESUS’ mini series by Pastor Wayne, beginning July 2014.

‘Following John to the Heart of Jesus’ is a message project dear to my own heart.

Allow me to start with my name, ‘Wayne’.
One of the meanings of the name ‘Wayne’ is ‘wagon builder’. Initially, I was not impressed. I prefer the name ‘Peter’ meaning ‘Rock’. Or ‘John’ meaning ‘God is gracious’. Or what about ‘Joseph’ which means ‘God will add’. But ‘wagon maker’? Seriously? Who can get excited about that?

Upon later reflection though, I got excited. The purpose of a ‘wagon’ is to carry the harvest. I grew up on a farm, and that was a no brainer. Someone has to ‘make’ the wagon, and ‘make it well’ if it is to fulfill its intended purpose. Well, I think I can do that. I can inspire, teach, demonstrate, resource, prepare the way for others to bring in souls for the Kingdom. Actually, my job is pretty important, don’t you think? Kind of sounds like the call of a pastor.

To do this with a tender, affectionate heart towards my saviour makes all the difference in the world. To get inside the mind and soul of John, the youngest of the apostles, and maybe one of the most ‘overlooked’ of the apostles – can be an enlightening experience. For all of us.

So let the journey begin. I am going to initiate this conversation starting with John’s Gospel. Then we’ll look at his 3 letters: 1 John, 2 John, 3 John. Last but not least ‘Revelation’.

So with my safari hat on, tracking shoes laced up, map in hand – I begin. Hope you’ll come, jump in and pace with me as well.

Pastor Wayne


Here are100 sample promises selected and created from God’s Word,! As you begin to make these confessions a part of your daily meditation time with the Lord, you will soon find yourself standing at the “batter’s plate,” facing life with the peace, confidence, and assurance that can only come from God.

Declare these confessions aloud.  As you do, you will be strengthened in your spirit, able to “keep your eye on the ball, adjust your timing, and turn your curve balls into home runs!”


1.    I am diligent to present myself approved of God, unashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth—His Word! (See Second Timothy 2:15.)

2.    I am seated in heavenly places in Christ Jesus. (See Ephesians 2:6.)

3.    I am God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared for me to walk in. (See Ephesians 2:10.)

4.    God’s Word will not depart from my mouth, but I will meditate in it day and night, that I may observe to do according to all that is written in it. Then my way will be prosperous, and I will have good success. (See Joshua 1:8.)

5.    Because I diligently obey the voice of the Lord my God and observe carefully all of His commandments ,God will set me high above all nations of the earth. I am blessed in the city and in the country; in the fruit of my body; (in the work to which He has called me; and in my checking and savings accounts). I am blessed when I come in and blessed when I go out. The Lord causes my enemies who rise against me to be defeated before my face. Though they come against me one way, they will flee from me seven ways. The Lord commands His blessings on everything to which I set my hand and blesses the land that He has given me. The Lord has established me as holy to Himself and has abundantly blessed and increased me with His good treasure. I will lend and not borrow. The Lord has made me the head and not the tail, above and not beneath.

I will not turn away from any of God’s commands. Instead, I accept the full counsel of His Word, in Jesus’ name. (See Deuteronomy 28:1-14.)

6.    In Christ, I have been redeemed from the curse of the law. Abraham’s blessings are mine now, in this life. (See Galatians 3:13-14.)

7.    God is increasing me more and more. (See Psalm 115:14.)

8.    I shall not die but live, and declare the works of the Lord. (See Psalm 118:17.)

9.    Because the Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want. (See Psalm 23:1.)

10.    Goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life. (See Psalm 23:6.)

11.    The Spirit of the Lord is upon me to share the Good News of Jesus Christ with others; to heal the broken hearted; to proclaim liberty to the captives and sight to the blind; and to set at liberty those who are oppressed. (See Luke 4:18.)

12.    In Christ and in God’s Word, He has given me all things that pertain to life and godliness. (See Second Peter 1:3.)

13.    As I sing and praise the Lord, He sets ambushes against my enemies. (See Second Chronicles 20:22.)

14.    The blessing of the Lord makes me rich, and He adds no sorrow with it. (See Proverbs 10:22.)

15.    God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. (See Second Timothy 1:7.)

16.    God’s thoughts of me are of peace and not of evil. His plans for me are to prosper me and not to harm me, to give me hope and a future. (See Jeremiah 29:11NIV.)

17.    I am not slothful, but I imitate those who through faith and patience inherit the promises of God. (See Hebrews 6:12.)

18.    The peace of God guards my heart and mind through Christ Jesus. (See Philippians 4:7.)

19.    In Jesus’ name, I cast down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ and His Word. I think on those things which are true, noble, just, pure, lovely and of good report. (See Second Corinthians 10:5; Philippians 4:8.)

20.    I am born again through Jesus Christ, and I am baptized in the Spirit of God to be a witness of Him in the earth. His ability and enablement are mine for the work to which He has called me. (See John 3:16; Acts 1:8.)

21.    Because I am willing and obedient, I am eating the good of the land. (See Isaiah 1:19.)

22.    God gives me the power to get wealth and teaches me to profit. He also leads me in the way I should go. (See Deuteronomy 8:18; Isaiah 48:17.)

23.    God’s plan for me is that I would prosper and be in health, just as my soul prospers. My soul is prospering (mind, will and emotions) with daily doses of God’s Word! (See Third John 1:2.)

24.    God takes pleasure in my prosperity. (See Psalm 35:27.)

25.    My steps are ordered of the Lord, and He delights Himself in me. (See Psalm 37:23.)

26.    Because I seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, everything I need is added unto me. (See Matthew 6:33.)

27.    Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. (See First John 4:4.)

28.    Because I abide in the Lord and He abides in me, in His Word, in prayer and in communion—I bear good fruit: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (See John 15:5; Galatians 5:22-23.)

29.    I cast all of my cares—anxieties, worries, and concerns—once and for all on the Lord, for He cares for me affectionately and cares about me watchfully. (See Second Peter 5:7 AMP.)

30.    I hold fast the confession of God’s Word without wavering, for He is faithful. He is not a man that He should lie or that He should repent, but He will do exactly as He has spoken. (See Hebrews 10:23; Numbers 23:19.)

31.    I will not be afraid, but I will stand still and see the salvation (the delivering, saving, healing, restoring and preservation power) of the Lord. The enemy I see today I will see no more. The Lord will fight for me, and I will hold my peace. (See Exodus 14:13-14.)

32.    The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong in my behalf because my heart is loyal to Him. (See Second Chronicles 16:9.)

33.    As I humble myself before my heavenly Father, pray, seek His face and turn from my wicked ways, I will hear from Heaven, He will forgive my sin and heal my land [my marriage and family, job, business, relationships, emotions, spirit, mind, finances, ministry and every area that concerns me]. (See Second Chronicles 7:14.)

34.    The joy of the Lord is my strength. (See Nehemiah8:10.)

35.    A merry heart does good like medicine. I have made a decision to let joy, laughter, and rejoicing be a vital part of my personality. (See Proverbs 17:22; Philippians 4:4.)

36.    My gift makes room for me and brings me before great men. (See Proverbs 18:16.)

37.    Lord Jesus, You are my healer. Because I serve You willfully and joyfully, You bless my bread and water and take sickness away from my midst. I will not suffer miscarriage or be barren in the land You have given me. In You, Lord Jesus, I will fulfill the number of my days. (See Exodus 15:26; 23:25-26.)

38.    Thank You, Lord Jesus, for bearing sin, sickness and infirmities and poverty for me. By the stripes and wounds You took at Calvary, I am healed. (See Matthew 8:17; First Peter 2:24; Isaiah 53:5.)

39.    Thank You, Lord, for restoring to me the years the locusts have eaten. I will eat in plenty and be satisfied and praise Your name, Lord, because You have dealt wondrously with me. (See Joel 2:25-26.)

40.    The natural and/or spiritual children You have given me, Lord, are for signs and wonders, causing great glory to come to Your Kingdom, in Jesus’ name. They will be strong in You and carry out great exploits! (See Isaiah 8:18; Daniel 11:32.)

41.    Because I sow bountifully, I reap bountifully. I am a cheerful giver. Because of Your grace, Lord, I have all sufficiency in all things and Your abundance for every good work. (See Second Corinthians 9:6-8.)

42.    My promotions do not come from the east, the west, or the south. They come from the Lord. (See Psalm 75:6-7.)

43.    My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in me. He bought me at a great price. Therefore, I will glorify God in my body, mind, and spirit, which are His. (See First Corinthians 6:19-20.)

44.    I am accepted in the Beloved. (See Ephesians 1:6.)

45.    I am seated with Christ in heavenly places. (See Ephesians 2:6.)

46.    Because I obey my parents in the Lord and honor them, it will be well with me and I will live long on the earth. (See Ephesians 6:1-3.)

47.    God is doing exceedingly abundantly above all that I ask or think, according to His power that is at work in me. His power in me increases daily because of my intake and meditation upon His Word. (See Ephesians 3:20.)

48.    No corrupt communication will proceed out of my mouth, but only words that are good for edification, to impart God’s grace to the hearers. I will not grieve the Holy Spirit with wrong thoughts and attitudes, in Jesus’ name. (See Ephesians 5:29-30.)

49.    I am kind to others, tender hearted and forgiving, even as God in Christ forgives me. (See Ephesians 4:32.)

50.    I put on the whole armor of God, so I can stand against the tricks and deceit of the devil: the belt of truth; the breastplate of righteousness; the preparation of the gospel of peace on my feet; the shield of faith to quench every fiery dart of the wicked one; the helmet of salvation; the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God; and all prayer and supplication in my understanding and in the Spirit. (See Ephesians 6:10-18.)

51.    Integrity and uprightness preserve me. (See Psalm 25:21.)

52.    Because I am like a sheep in the midst of wolves, I am wary and wise as a serpent, innocent, harmless, guileless, and without falsity as a dove. (See Matthew 10:16 AMP.)

53.    Whatever my hand finds to do for the good of God’s Kingdom, I do it with all my might. (See Ecclesiastes 9:10.)

54.    No weapon formed against me shall prosper. Every tongue that speaks against me will be silenced. (See Isaiah 54:17.)

55.    I release former failures and reliance on successes so God can do a new thing in my life. He will make roads in the wilderness and rivers in the desert for me, in Jesus’ name. (See Isaiah 43:18-19.)

56.    I will not be afraid or dismayed, for God is with me. He is my God, and He is for me. He will strengthen me, help me and uphold me with His victorious right hand of rightness and justice. God is for me, so who can withstand me? (See Isaiah 41:10 AMP; Romans 8:31.)

57.    I will not grow weary in doing good, for in due season I will reap, because I will not faint or lose heart. (See Galatians 6:9.)

58.    God always causes me to triumph in Christ, as a trophy of His victory. Through me He spreads and makes evident the fragrance of the knowledge of God. (See Second Corinthians 2:14 AMP.)

59.    I am longsuffering and kind. I will not envy, parade myself or become puffed up in arrogance and pride.

I will not behave rudely, seek things for my own benefit, become provoked or think evil. I will rejoice in the truth rather than in iniquity. I will bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, and endure all things. God’s love in and through me never fails. (See First Corinthians 13:4-8.)

60.    The Lord will deliver me out of every affliction and trouble. He will guard my bones so not one of them is broken. (See Psalm 34:17,19-20.)

61.    As I wait upon the Lord, my strength is renewed. I mount up with wings like an eagle, I run and do not become weary and I walk and do not faint. (See Isaiah 40:31.)

62.    I will bless the Lord at all times, for He forgives all of my sins, heals all of my diseases, redeems my life from destruction, crowns me with loving kindness and good things, and renews my youth like an eagle. (See Psalm 103:3-5.)

63.    I am not afraid of evil tidings, for my heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. (See Psalm 112:7.)

64.    The stability of my life is the wisdom and knowledge of God. (See Isaiah 33:6.)

65.    God will supply all of my needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (See Philippians 4:19.)

66.    I forget those things which are behind and reach forward to those things which are ahead. I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. (See Philippians 3:13-14.)

67.    God’s Word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. (See Psalm 119:105.)

68.    In Christ, I can run through a troop and leap over a wall. (See Psalm 18:29.)

69.    God is my refuge and fortress, in Him I will trust. He will deliver me from the snare of the devil. He will cover me with His feathers, and under His wings I will take refuge. His truth (His Word) is my shield and buckler. I will not be afraid of the terror by night, nor of the arrow that flies by day, nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. Although a thousand may fall at my side and ten thousand at my right hand, it shall not come near me. Because the Lord is my refuge and dwelling place, no evil will befall me, nor any plague come near my dwelling. God has given His angels charge over me to keep me in all my ways. I will trample the works of the devil underfoot. Because my focus and love are set upon the Lord, He will deliver me, set me on high and answer me. He will be with me in trouble, He will honor me and satisfy me with long life. He will show me His salvation, which includes healing, deliverance, preservation, and safety. (See Psalm 91.)

70.    I am flourishing like a palm tree and growing like a cedar in Lebanon. Because I am planted in the house of the Lord, I am flourishing in the courts of my God. (See Psalm 92:12-13.)

71.    Everything I do, I do heartily as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that I serve Christ. I am receiving the reward of the inheritance He has provided for me. (See Colossians 3:23-24.)

72.    My tongue is filled with life, not death, and I will eat of its fruit. My speech is seasoned with grace and salt, and in Christ I am confident how I should answer every person. (See Proverbs 18:21; Colossians 4:6.)

73.    The blood of Jesus Christ cleanses me from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, and perfects holiness in me. (See Second Corinthians 7:1.)

74.    Because I am submitted to God, I resist the devil and he flees from me. (See James 4:7.)

75.    In Christ, I have been given authority to trample on all the power and works of the devil.  Nothing ,absolutely nothing, will by any means hurt me. (See Luke 10:19.)

76.    Because I believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, I am saved and all my household will be saved. (See Acts 16:31.)

77.    In Christ I live and move and have my being. (See Acts 17:28.)

78.    In all things, I am more than a conqueror through Him who loves me. (See Romans 8:37.)

79.    I will pray in another tongue in the Holy Spirit, for therein is the rest and refreshing of the Lord. In this manner, my faith will also be built up. (See Isaiah 28:11-12; Jude 1:20.)

80.    In Christ I have been made a king and a priest to God, my Father. (See Revelation 1:6.)

81.    I hunger and thirst for righteousness. (See Matthew 5:6.)

82.    Because my ways please the Lord, He makes even my enemies to be at peace with me. (See Proverbs 16:7.)

83.    The Holy Spirit guides me into all truth and reveals things to me that are to happen in the future. He is my Comforter, Counselor, Helper, Advocate, Intercessor, Strengthener, and Standby. (See John 15:26; 16:13 AMP.)

84.    I am far from oppression, for I will not fear. I am far from terror, for it will not come near me. (See Isaiah 54:14.)

85.    My children are taught of the Lord and are obedient to His will. Great is their peace and undisturbed composure. (See Isaiah 54:13 AMP.)

86.    Because I know the voice of the Good Shepherd, Jesus Christ, I follow Him. I will not follow the voice of a stranger. (See John 10:4-5,27.)

87.    I am led by the Spirit of God. I am God’s son (or daughter). The law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set me free from the law of sin and death. (See Romans 8:2,14.)

88.    Because I revere and worship the Lord, the Sun of Righteousness has arisen in my life with healing in His wings. I will go forth like a calf released from the stall and leap for joy! (See Malachi 4:2 AMP.)

89.    Because I give, it is given unto me, good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. With the same measure I give, it is given back to me. (See Luke 6:38.)

90.    Because I am quick to forgive, God is quick to forgive me. With God’s help, I will love my enemies, do good to those who hate me, and bless those who curse me and spitefully use me. (See Mark 11:25-26; Luke 6:27-28.)

91.    I am blessed because I give to the poor. The Lord will deliver me in times of trouble. He will preserve me and keep me alive, and I will be blessed on the earth. God will not deliver me to the will of my enemies, but He will strengthen and sustain me. Light, healing, and righteousness will come forth speedily in my behalf. The glory of the Lord will be my rear guard. When I call, the Lord will answer, and when I cry, He will say, ‘Here I am!’  (See Psalm 41:1-3; Isaiah 58:6-9.)

92.    The salt and light of the Lord Jesus Christ radiate from me, causing the lost to want to know the Source of it. (See Matthew 5:13-16.)

93.    By choice, I am a laborer in God’s harvest fields. I am a channel of healing for the sick and those with incurable diseases, of resurrection power for the dead and deliverance for the demon oppressed. As I share God’s Word, He confirms it with signs, wonders, and miracles. (See Matthew 9:37-38; 10:8; Mark 16:15-20.)

94.    Repentance and acceptance of Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior have wiped away my sins and have caused times of refreshing to come in the presence of the Lord. (See Acts 3:19.)

95.    My faith is strong and continually growing from hearing and hearing the Word of God. Like Abraham, I speak those things which do not yet exist as though they already are. (See Romans 10:17; 4:17.)

96.    Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor has it entered into the heart of man the things God has prepared for me, simply because I love Him! (See First Corinthians 2:9.)

97.    I will speak pleasant words, for they are a source of sweetness to the soul and health to the bones: for myself as well as for others. (See Proverbs 16:24.)

98.    Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast, right spirit within me. Do not cast me away from your presence, or take Your Holy Spirit from me. (See Psalm 51:10-11.)

99.    I have no lack in any area of my life, because God owns the cattle on a thousand hills. (See Psalm 50:10.)

100.    The name of the Lord is a tower of strength. I run into it and am safe and secure. (See Proverbs 18:10)



Let’s go Blue Jays let’s go!!!

Ya, the Jays are presently top in their division.  Got to love it.

It’s pretty easy to hit a fast ball, if all the pitcher throws is fast balls, and that’s all you’re looking for.

But a ‘curve ball’ are those unexpected events that mess things up, and you just don’t know what to do, so you swing, swing and swing – missing the ball all the time, striking out, feeling out of your league.

Life’s storms are like that, so that’s why I’m going to spend a few weeks talking about ‘HOW TO RESPOND TO LIFE’S STORMS’, or in more contemporary terms  ‘What do I do when Life throws me a curve ball’

Let’s tackle this head on this Sunday, June 22nd – and see where it goes!

With a bat ready in my hands….

Pastor Wayne

Fathers Day ‘Ask the Pastor’

This past Father’s Day, Lorrie and I decided we’d set up the service where she could ask questions relating to Fathers Day – questions sent in from the congregation. It was alot more fun than I thought it would be, but also required me to be vulnerable in areas of fatherhood that normally I don’t openly talk about.

Numerous questions came in late, so I thought I’d post them on this blog, with some of my thoughts. I certainly don’t pretend to have all the answers, and I am certainly not a perfect father ( I think I hear my kids saying AMEN to that). Nevertheless, here are some of the questions.

1. What have you learned the most about yourself, good and bad, while being a father? What has it taught you about God?
Pastor Wayne: That it is too easy to default back to my past residue of ‘problems and hang-ups’. As a wise person once counselled me ‘We don’t live by the facts of life, but by our interpretation of those facts’. No kidding. And that interpretation can too easily be imposed on another. So, to instruct and guide our children, we need to discover and find healing in our own issues – so that we can more objectively and with clarity give direction, correction and love to our children. On the plus side though, because I grew up in a family of love and blessing, I am more able to be that example of love and nurture to my own kids.
The cool thing is, that no matter what injustices we felt were done to us growing up, God is a perfect Father and His ways are perfect. Learning more about and from Him, helps me to be a better dad.

2. As a wife and mother, what is the best way we can encourage our husband to be the father God has called them to be?
Pastor Wayne: Love your husbands the way God has asked you. That love grants him strength, security, and confidence as a man, husband and father.
Speak highly of him to your children, and they will treat him with high regard. Demonstrate respect and honour to him – and they will model it as well. Allow them to take the lead in the home, building them up in the process – cheering them on, allowing them to make mistakes, and working through it with them.

3. You talked about mistakes, could you share one? And how you dealt with it?
Pastor Wayne: I went ahead and shared a time where I became (uncharacteristic to me) quite angry with my son during his rebellious years. I had to humble myself, apologize, walk through with him what happened.
Incidentally, Lorrie had a surprise for me at the end of the service, because my son couldn’t be with us for Father’s Day. He sent a spoken word which she played for me and the congregation. It was moving, and humbling. Here it is if you’re interested…

4. How do you come to terms with reversing stereotypes. When the wife provides more?
Pastor Wayne: Hasn’t the home always been BOTH PROVIDING? I mean, one might not be going out to work and bringing home the bacon, but they’re still providing. Providing a home for both to feel at rest, comfortable, safe, cozy. Providing an outlet for social interaction, or meeting the needs of the children through nurture and care. So, when one makes more money than the other, it’s important that THE OTHER works at providing ‘what your home needs’ through other means, without competition or any sense of inferiority. Both together make up the WHOLE.

5. Did you Father your respective children differently? If so how?
Pastor Wayne: No. It is important to demonstrate fairness to all our children. Having said that, do some children require more attention? Yes. In such cases, ensure time is given to the others where they most need it and can enjoy your presence.

6. I don’t have a relationship with my father because of our history. He’s made many broken promises, left a lot of hurt in my life. What advice would you give to me about forgiving him so that I can move on without any effects on my future relationships?
Pastor Wayne: This comment is all too common. First, you said it yourself. Forgiving does not immediately demand you to trust and embrace. It does mean that you do need to come to terms with the broken promises, hurts and anger. Scriptures are full of examples of where you can turn and how you can find strength from God in these times of need. Read them, pray them, confess your hurt and anger to God. You may need another mature believer to share and pray with also – to squeeze out any poison and effects lingering in your soul. Then seek their forgiveness of things you’ve done or said to them in response to this. Your release from this offense is not dependent on them forgiving you as much as you release them as a debtor. When we do this, God brings amazing supernatural forgiveness into our own lives.
Remember: there is a difference between forgiveness and trust. Trust is earned, over time.
Now you’re better set to love and receive new relationships into your life.

7. What would you recommend for a father to do while his daughter blames him for breaking up the family and she won’t talk or have anything to do with him anymore?
Pastor Wayne: Pray for her asking God to soften her heart. Be patient, the marriage likely didn’t break up overnight, nor will healing of those hurts happen anytime soon. Pray for yourself, asking God to reveal where you have contributed to this hurt in your daughters life. You may discover that while you’re being kind and tender to her, you are being a tyrant to your wife … her mother. She’ll hold you to the wall for that. Seek to reach out to her in love – words and actions of affirmation and love and acceptance. Be patient – she needs time. Deep inside her, she wants to love you again, and trust you again, but likely feels that she could not handle another upset coming from you. Do not override her wishes (I’m assuming this daughter is grown, and adult – as my advise would be somewhat different if she is a minor), and honour her request if you want to call, talk, visit, drop by, take her out, etc. Keep offering the olive branch. Time, circumstances, and you truly developing that ability to LISTEN TO HER and not TELL HER THINGS – will allow you to begin to build trust back into your relationship. Open your heart to care about what she cares for.

Well, it’s time to sign off… hope one or two thoughts help.
Pastor Wayne

Pentecost Sunday

‘Just repeat after me, and don’t think about anything’.
That’s the advice I got at the front of a youth meeting when I was 14 years old, when I went forward in response to an invitation to be baptised in the Holy Spirit.

Not only did it NOT work, but I left so very disappointed and disillusioned.

Pentecost Sunday encourages every believer to revisit the feast of Pentecost tradition, and the great Pentecostal outpouring in Acts 2. What has been your experience regarding “Pentecost’ and the Ministry of the Holy Spirit in your life?

O ya, my story has a happy ending, but more about that on Pentecost Sunday.